“I shall not die of a cold, I shall die of having lived.”
Dear New Mamma,
I hear you’re going through a really rough time. I’m so sorry.
I want you to know it is okay not to be able to do everything yourself. It is okay not to know how to do everything. It is okay not to be super-duper cheery. It’s okay to cry. What you’re doing, what you’re feeling, is hard! You still love your child, you still love your partner (even though it may be hard to bring up those emotions sometimes).
The most important thing to help deal with your emotions and hormonal fluctuations right now is to find some way to get at least three to four hours of uninterrupted sleep every day. It may not happen all the time, but try. Getting together a routine–not a strict schedule–but a set way of moving through the day can help. I’m not sure how you feel about this, but counseling can make a huge difference in processing what is going on and give you some relief.
Above all, I absolutely want you to remember these two things:
1) Never, ever compare your insides (your situation) to someone else’s outsides (what they appear able to do, to be).
2) No matter how you feel physically, emotionally, and mentally, no matter what you do, or what limitations you find yourself working with, YOU ARE ALREADY the best, most perfect mother that your child could possibly have. What a blessing it is for your little one to have you.
Much Love From Someone Who’s Been There (and still is),
P.S. And one more thing, it’s okay to be angry. It’s not fair! Nothing you’re going through is fair and you get to be mad about it.
“What is not good for the swarm is not good for the bee.”
I just stumbled across this! Read Andy Palmer (of The Limping Chicken) more in-depth discussion of what we saw in the video here.
In the video I shared on Friday, I found it fascinating to see not only the tactile (under hand) signing but also the involvement of the woman on the right using movements on the young man’s back.
A while ago, my husband had some training in Seattle to accompany Deafblind as a Support Service Provider. At that time, the only movement used on the back was an “X” to be drawn in case of emergency.
It turns out that there is a much more developed way of physically communicating with Deafblind sometimes referred to as “back-channelling”. Continue reading
Hélio, a sign language expert, finds a way to bring the Brazil vs Croatia World Cup 2014 match live to his friend, Carlos, a young Deafblind man.