The Woods Always Look Familiar.

“I felt like lying down by the side of the trail and remembering it all. The woods do that to you, they always look familiar, long lost, like the face of a long-dead relative, like an old dream, like a piece of forgotten song drifting across the water, most of all like golden eternities of past childhood or past manhood and all the living and the dying and the heartbreak that went on a million years ago and the clouds as they pass overhead seem to testify (by their own lonesome familiarity) to this feeling.”

Jack Kerouac


But I Don’t Know How To Help Her.

Do you know a new mother?  Do you want to support her but are at a loss how to do so beyond buying something off the gift registry? (Which is awesome, don’t get me wrong!)

There are a lot of things you can buy to help with a new baby, however there are more meaningful things you can do that can make a huge difference in how that mother adjusts, survives, and enjoys the weeks and months and years after giving birth.

Please read How To Help A New Mom: 20+ Things You Can Do To Help A New Mother and try one thing on the list to support your friends, family, neighbors, anyone you may know who has a new (or not so new) baby. Please. It can mean the world to someone in the thick of this life-changing time.

(Thanks to my Mom for giving me a similar list during my first pregnancy.)

To The New Mother Crying In The Mirror.

Dear New Mamma,

I hear you’re going through a really rough time. I’m so sorry.

I want you to know it is okay not to be able to do everything yourself. It is okay not to know how to do everything. It is okay not to be super-duper cheery. It’s okay to cry. What you’re doing, what you’re feeling, is hard! You still love your child, you still love your partner (even though it may be hard to bring up those emotions sometimes).

The most important thing to help deal with your emotions and hormonal fluctuations right now is to find some way to get at least three to four hours of uninterrupted sleep every day. It may not happen all the time, but try.

Getting together a routine–not a strict schedule–but a set way of moving through the day can help. Continue reading